02
Nov
09

Are you willing to do what it takes?

have to pose this question:  Are you willing to make a choice that may make your teen angry with you for the sake of their well-being?  If you’re not, then you’re not really their parent; you’re more their friend and that’s not what you’re meant to be.

As parents, we have have to make tough choices.  We have to be the villain sometimes for the sake of their future.  We can’t walk around saying to ourselves, “Well, what if they react this way or that way?”  I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be respectful in our directives, but we should be bold.  We must set boundaries.  Believe it or not, they want us to.  That’s right.  I said it.  They WANT us to.

Teenagers don’t want doormats for parents.  Did you?  Think about it for a minute.  How much respect would you have for, let’s say your boss, if he or she let you come in to work whenever you wanted, let you speak to them however you wanted, or allowed you to just do whatever you wanted?  Sure, it would be fun for a while, but then you’d begin to realize that you’d be acting like nothing short of a two-year-old left in the wild.  Is that what you want for your parent/teen relationship?  Do you really want to be known as the parent who lost their backbone because of your own insecurities?  I’m going to bet that you don’t.

With that said, set boundaries my friend.  Be the parent you are called to be.  You’re not doing them any good being anything less than that.

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